Quick Update – May As Well Event officially has a Facebook page!

I am not in the market for another horse. I don’t WANT to be in the market for another horse. In fact, when I bought May, she was the only horse I looked at, and I traded away my old horse for her. Why do I dislike horse shopping so much? Probably because the experience is always pretty miserable. However, now looking back on my horse shopping experience 6 years ago, it’s something I can laugh about, and I hope you can to.

When I bought my first horse, it was before I got into eventing, so I wasn’t looking for an eventer. I was looking for a jumper horse that could cross into the adult equitation divisions. 3′ and under. Didn’t have to be fancy. I think my specs were:

  • 15.2 or taller
  • Over age of 4 (I wasn’t in a rush, but didn’t have the time for a 3yo)
  • Under age of 13
  • Capable of jumping 3′
  • Wouldn’t kill me
  • Under $5K

I have seen this happen. In fact, I ended up buying it in May.


However, I saw a lot of interesting horses with that spec list. Let’s start with horse 1!

Oldenburg Mare – 16H – Bay – 10YO

This one even had some show experience at the level I wanted to compete. Seller mentioned that she really wouldn’t be competitive as a Low Child/Adult Jumper (3’3″ – 3’5″) as she was a brave jumper but not always the most careful. That’s fine. Safe and fun was more important to me then ribbons, and it explained the lower price. All good, reasonable things. Right? She was even less than an hour away from my barn. Great!

We went to go look at her. I don’t even remember if the trainer got on first, or if I hopped on. Either way, we passed through the indoor and into the outdoor because “The outdoor has better footing.”

The mare was in a pelham, which I only remember because it had been quite a while since I had ridden in two reins. I was also handed a pair of spurs. Again, not something I had ridden in often. Not a huge deal. You can do the eqs in a pelham and spurs, and it isn’t outrageous gear for a jumper. I got myself sorted out, and asked the mare to move on.

Her whole body weight was immediately in my hands. I tried to give her a bit of rein, and the seller starts shouting at me, “Keep contact with her face.”

Really? I thought. This much contact? I tried just sliding my hands forward and got the same response. Fine. This is your horse, and I will do it  your way. 

At the trot, I picked up on another issue. The mare had 0 flexibility in her body. It was like the muscle that run along either side of her spine were tensed into solid rock and there was nothing I could do about it. Now? I probably have a few tools in my toolbox for her, but not back then.

Then, I asked for the canter. To the left, no issues. To the right, she swung her haunches in, levitated, and picked up the left lead. It wasn’t so much a naughty response, but it was like she just COULDN’T rock back on that left hind leg like she needed to. The seller’s advice? “Keep more contact with her face.” I wish I was kidding.

I finally figured out that it was easier for her if I really rocked my weight back with her when I asked. (mind you, I was all of 140 lbs then, and she was a stocky mare.) After cantering a bit, I was told to jump her through the triple combination set up on the outside at around 2’6″. I think it was a vertical, 2 strides to a vertical, 3 strides to an oxer.

Fine. I pick up a good canter pace. Turn the corner. She TAKES OFF. Jumps the first jump from a stride away, does ONE stride, and jumps the second vertical. I circle before the oxer. Nope. Not dying on this horse. Seller AGAIN tells me that I need to hold her face tighter and keep her more collected at the very beginning. Basically, I end up cantering towards the combination in a skiing position.

I managed to get two strides in-between the first two jumps and then halt half HARD to get the 3 to the oxer. Mare cracks her back and then tries to take off on the other side. We do a couple more jumps to prove how brave she was, and then I handed her back to the seller with a quick thank you.

I was crippled with muscle soreness for 4 days after that, and that was when I rode 4 horses 6 days a week. I also was later told some shady things about the trainer selling the horse… I won’t go into details, but passing was probably the right move.

SmartPak Update

After my review went live, another smartpak rep did reach out to me and recommend another fly mask. This one. Her comment was that it didn’t rub her thin-skinned thoroughbred. However, if it fits her thoroughbred, it probably doesn’t fit my draft cross, and it only comes in a standard horse size.

Honestly, I just might go try and support my local tack shop after work tomorrow. 🙂

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  1. the_everything_pony

    Ugh wow. I’ve never really done the whole “horse shopping” thing since I was lucky enough to just buy Amber sooooo I already knew the horse haha. I dread the day I will buy another one because I REALLY don’t want to fall into the “false advertising” trap and end up getting injured while trying one.

    1. Emily

      I never want to go horse shopping again. Sounds fun. Is actually miserable. ?

  2. Nicole

    Well if buying a horse is that miserable, selling one is 10x worse. I dread the day I have to sell one of mine.

    1. Emily

      I tried to sell my old horse before trading him for May… I sat through ONE test ride before I gave up on that idea. If my trainer tells a trainer that he is not for a beginner, please do not bring someone looking for a 2′ jumper packer… It went about as well as expected…

  3. hellomylivia

    Gah now I feel extra lucky- my trainer found Frankie, sat on him, I sat on him, we vetted him, we bought him. It was through a consignment barn and he was very honestly described and fairly priced, it was totally painless and easy (as much as writing a check can be painless…). I hear so many horror stories!!

    1. Emily

      you’re so lucky! May was kind of that way… went to PA, tried her (she was MUCH GREENER than advertised but still a good girl), handed over a check, and put her on the trailer.

  4. Shauna

    Horse shopping is the absolute worst. Worse than online dating, worse than bathing suit shopping. Its just the pits 🙁

    1. Emily

      At least with online dating you are communicating with the person you are planning on meeting (at least most of the time!)… with horses it’s like talking to the guy that works in accounting about the marketing guy down the hall.

  5. Emma

    I feel about horse shopping the same way I feel about saddle or truck shopping. Exciting in theory but a goddamn miserable grind in practice, with a hefty dose of uncertain gambling lol. Hopefully none of us will be horse shopping any time soon!

    1. Emily

      Omg YES saddle shopping is ALSO the WORST. Haven’t really had to deal with truck shopping… yet…

  6. roamingridersite

    UGH…brings back bad memories from my most recent shopping experience and I’m still uncertain I made the right choice. Horse shopping should be like puppy or kitten shopping…but it isn’t.

    1. Emily

      Right? Like immediate “oh I love this thing, and it loves me back. Yay!”

      Instead it’s either, “How fast can I leave this place without tossing up gravel?” or “Welp, This is probably as good as it gets with my budget.” (no offense, May)

      Maybe if you have OODLES of money, it is more fun.

  7. nadsnovik

    Yeah I’m one of the lucky ones. I looked at one horse, bought her, and she was AMAZING. I mean, not perfect but so perfect for me. Horse shopping can be tough. So glad you have May 🙂

    1. Emily

      You got so lucky! When it’s right, it’s right!

  8. When I was horse shopping after trying Juice but feeling unsure about him (I thought I wanted another thoroughbred), I rode a gelding who would not stop bucking. Both trainers rode him before me and he was fine. The seller called me the next day and asked if I wanted to take him on trial. She chose then to tell me the horse had both chiro and massage the day before I tried him and was sore. Then why did you have me drive an hour to come try him that specific day?? Ugh.

    1. Emily

      Right?? People are nuts. Also, do you really want a horse that bucks constantly when he’s a bit sore? ??

  9. KC Scott

    Bahahaha, sounds about right for horse shopping!

    People are crazy!

    1. Emily

      Absolutely delusional. I know barn blindness is a thing, but some people take it a little too far!

  10. L. Williams

    Sounds like definitely not the right horse haha

    1. Emily

      Nope! Not for me hahaha

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